Toby Messer, NCPS
Solution-focused psychotherapist blending insight and action
- Integrative behavioral methods
- Analytical depth
- Present-focused change
About Toby Messer
Toby Messer is a solution-focused, analytical psychotherapist who helps clients explore the roots of their emotions and behaviours while supporting practical, meaningful change in the present. He draws on a blended toolkit, combining behavioural methods such as CBT, REBT, and DBT with the deeper inquiry of psychodynamic and analytical approaches to create therapy that aims to be both effective now and enduring over time.
Known for an emphasis on understanding why patterns emerge as well as how to shift them, he tailors interventions to each person's needs, balancing structured skills work with reflective exploration. He holds the NCPS credential and brings eleven years of experience to his clinical practice, working with a wide range of concerns and life transitions.
Known for an emphasis on understanding why patterns emerge as well as how to shift them, he tailors interventions to each person's needs, balancing structured skills work with reflective exploration. He holds the NCPS credential and brings eleven years of experience to his clinical practice, working with a wide range of concerns and life transitions.
Areas of Expertise
Primary Focus
Also Specializes In
AddictionsLGBTFamily conflictsTrauma and abuseIntimacy-related issuesEating disordersSleeping disordersParenting issuesAnger managementCareer difficultiesBipolar disorderCoping with life changesCoachingCompassion fatigueADHD
Additional Focus Areas
AbandonmentAging and geriatric issuesAntisocial personalityAttachment issuesBDSM, kink, and alternative sex cultureBlended family issuesBody imageCancerCaregiver issues and stressChronic pain, illness, and disabilityCodependencyCommitment issuesCommunication problemsControl issuesCoping with natural or human-caused disasterDependent personalityDisruptive Mood Dysregulation Disorder (DMDD)DissociationDivorce and separationDomestic violenceDrug and alcohol addictionEating and food-related issuesEmptinessFamily of origin issuesFamily problemsFatherhood issuesFertility issuesFirst responder issuesForgivenessGender dysphoriaGuilt and shameHoardingHospice and end-of-life counselingImpulsivityInfidelityIsolation / lonelinessJealousyLife purposeMen's issuesMidlife crisisVeteran and Armed Forces IssuesMoney and financial issuesMood disordersMulticultural concernsNarcissismObsessions, compulsions, and OCDPanic disorder and panic attacksParanoiaPersonality disordersPhobiasPolyamory / non-monogamous relationshipsPostpartum depressionPost-traumatic stressPregnancy and childbirthProcess addiction (porn, exercise, gambling)Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)Self-harmSelf-loveSex addictionSexual assault and abuseSexual dysfunctionSexualitySocial anxiety and phobiaTrichotillomaniaWorkplace issuesYoung adult issues
Therapeutic Approach
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) Attachment-Based Therapy Client-Centered Therapy Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) Existential Therapy Jungian Therapy Mindfulness Therapy Motivational Interviewing Psychodynamic Therapy Solution-Focused Therapy Trauma-Focused Therapy Systemic Therapy
Frequently Asked Questions
How much experience does Toby Messer have?
Toby Messer has 11 years of experience.
Is Toby Messer a licensed therapist?
Yes. He holds the NCPS credential. License details: .
In which languages does Toby Messer provide therapy?
Toby Messer provides therapy in English.
Where is Toby Messer located?
Toby Messer is located in the United Kingdom.
How can I work with Toby Messer as my therapist?
You can work with Toby Messer through video calls, phone sessions, live chat, or text-based messaging.
Does Toby Messer work with international clients?
Yes, Toby Messer works with international clients.
How much does therapy with Toby Messer cost?
The cost of therapy can vary depending on factors such as your location and the therapist's availability. Sessions are billed through a subscription that can be canceled at any time, for any reason. For current details, just click the "Start Therapy" button on this page.
How can I get started with therapy?
Getting started with therapy is quick and straightforward. Just click the "Start Therapy" button and complete a short questionnaire that helps match you with your therapist. Depending on availability, you can then schedule your first session, which may take place by phone, video call, live chat, or in-app messaging.
Integrative Approaches for Online Therapeutic Work
CBT, or Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, helps people identify and shift unhelpful thoughts and behaviours through structured techniques and practical exercises - it is often used for anxiety, depression, stress, and many everyday challenges.DBT, or Dialectical Behavior Therapy, teaches skills for emotional regulation, distress tolerance, and effective interpersonal communication, making it helpful for intense emotions, relationship difficulties, and problems managing stress.
Attachment-Based Therapy explores how early relationship patterns shape current connections, helping people address intimacy issues, attachment wounds, and patterns that affect family and romantic relationships.
Finding the right approach is part of the therapeutic journey. Toby works collaboratively with clients and with other licensed professionals when appropriate to assess needs, goals, and preferences, and to tailor methods that best fit each person.
Online therapy offers flexibility and accessibility through video calls, phone sessions, live chat, and text-based messaging. These options allow sessions to fit around work, family, and geographic constraints while maintaining continuity of care, letting clients engage in therapy in ways that suit their lives and pace of change.