Nicole Thomte, LMFT
Affirming therapist for diverse relationships
- LGBTQIA+ affirmative care
- Solution-focused and client-centered
- Sex-positive and kink-affirming
About Nicole Thomte
Nicole Thomte uses she/her or they/them pronouns and is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, known by the credential LMFT, licensed in Minnesota as MN LMFT 3853. Her practice centers on supporting individuals, couples, and families who live outside dominant societal expectations and who seek therapeutic care that affirms their identities and relationships.
She provides affirmative therapy for people across LGBTQIA+ communities and those involved in kink, consensual non-monogamy, polyamory, and related relationship styles. Nicole works from a largely solution-focused perspective informed by an intersectional feminist lens, and she also integrates sex-positive approaches while honoring the validity of asexuality as part of sexual diversity.
Nicole's therapeutic stance is non-directive and exploratory, oriented around acceptance and a willingness to notice the humor that often lightens life's stress. She approaches clients as the experts in their own lives, offering a reflective outside perspective to help reveal patterns and connections without over-relying on diagnostic labels.
Choosing therapy as a third career has been a complex and deeply meaningful decision for Nicole, and her early clinical work began after receiving a state intern license in 2013. She has experience at a behavioral health agency serving people with multiple health challenges and limited access to resources, including many who were on disability or waiting for benefits.
Beginning in November 2012 and continuing until a hiatus in July 2018, Nicole participated in supervision groups and co-facilitated survivor groups with Gender Justice Nevada, learning from survivors of sex- and gender-based violence, families of sex- and gender-diverse people, and sex workers. During that time she provided group facilitation as well as individual, couples, and family therapy. Nicole is a compassionate, driven advocate for people pushed to the margins of society, and she looks forward to hearing what prospective clients bring to the therapeutic space.
She provides affirmative therapy for people across LGBTQIA+ communities and those involved in kink, consensual non-monogamy, polyamory, and related relationship styles. Nicole works from a largely solution-focused perspective informed by an intersectional feminist lens, and she also integrates sex-positive approaches while honoring the validity of asexuality as part of sexual diversity.
Nicole's therapeutic stance is non-directive and exploratory, oriented around acceptance and a willingness to notice the humor that often lightens life's stress. She approaches clients as the experts in their own lives, offering a reflective outside perspective to help reveal patterns and connections without over-relying on diagnostic labels.
Choosing therapy as a third career has been a complex and deeply meaningful decision for Nicole, and her early clinical work began after receiving a state intern license in 2013. She has experience at a behavioral health agency serving people with multiple health challenges and limited access to resources, including many who were on disability or waiting for benefits.
Beginning in November 2012 and continuing until a hiatus in July 2018, Nicole participated in supervision groups and co-facilitated survivor groups with Gender Justice Nevada, learning from survivors of sex- and gender-based violence, families of sex- and gender-diverse people, and sex workers. During that time she provided group facilitation as well as individual, couples, and family therapy. Nicole is a compassionate, driven advocate for people pushed to the margins of society, and she looks forward to hearing what prospective clients bring to the therapeutic space.
Areas of Expertise
Primary Focus
Also Specializes In
Family conflictsTrauma and abuseGriefAnger managementCareer difficultiesBipolar disorderDepressionCoping with life changesCompassion fatigueADHD
Additional Focus Areas
BDSM, kink, and alternative sex cultureChronic pain, illness, and disabilityCommunication problemsGender dysphoriaMood disordersMulticultural concernsPanic disorder and panic attacksPhobiasPolyamory / non-monogamous relationshipsPrejudice and discriminationSexualityWomen's issues
Therapeutic Approach
Client-Centered Therapy Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) Motivational Interviewing Solution-Focused Therapy Trauma-Focused Therapy
Frequently Asked Questions
How much experience does Nicole Thomte have?
Nicole Thomte has 13 years of experience.
Is Nicole Thomte a licensed therapist?
Yes. She is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), licensed in Minnesota as MN LMFT 3853.
In which languages does Nicole Thomte provide therapy?
English
Where is Nicole Thomte located?
Nigeria
How can I work with Nicole Thomte as my therapist?
You can work with Nicole Thomte through video calls, phone sessions, live chat, or text-based messaging.
Does Nicole Thomte work with international clients?
Nicole Thomte does not currently work with international clients.
How much does therapy with Nicole Thomte cost?
The cost of therapy can vary depending on factors such as your location and the therapist's availability. Sessions are billed through a subscription that can be canceled at any time, for any reason. For current details, click the "Start Therapy" button on this page.
How can I get started with therapy?
Getting started with therapy is quick and straightforward. Click the "Start Therapy" button and complete a short questionnaire that helps match you with a therapist. Depending on availability, you can then schedule your first session, which may take place by phone, video call, live chat, or in-app messaging.
Approaches that guide online therapy with Nicole Thomte
Nicole blends client-centered work and solution-focused techniques to shape online sessions. Client-centered therapy emphasizes listening, empathy, and supporting each person as the expert in their own life - this approach helps when someone needs a safe space to explore identity, relationships, or personal goals. Solution-focused therapy concentrates on identifying strengths and practical steps toward change, making it useful for addressing relationship concerns, stress, and coping with life transitions.
Nicole also integrates elements of cognitive behavioral therapy when helpful, offering straightforward tools to notice and shift unhelpful thinking and behavior patterns that contribute to anxiety, mood concerns, or interpersonal difficulties. Together these approaches are used collaboratively - Nicole works with each person to determine which methods fit their needs, goals, and preferences rather than applying a single model to every situation.
Online therapy with Nicole can take place via video calls, phone sessions, live chat, or text-based messaging, which supports flexibility for different schedules, mobility needs, and comfort levels. These options make it easier to maintain continuity of care, access therapy from varied locations, and choose the communication style that feels most effective for ongoing progress.